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How To Be A Stress-Free Wedding Guest
Whether dating or single; attending someone else's wedding can be stressful.
by Rebecca Wright
Any bride will tell you—at great length—how stressful it is to plan a wedding. But what about the guests? Rarely does anyone acknowledge their pain.
As this summer’s wedding season heats up, my stateside pals tell me they’re counting on cinematic comic relief: They have high hopes for the July movie Wedding Crashers, featuring Vince Vaughn and Owen Wilson as randy rogues who prey on starry-eyed bridesmaids at their most susceptible. I can sympathize.
Even here in Britain, the country that produced Four Weddings and a Funeral, that wry, candid classic of champagne-fueled hookups and heartbreak, we haven’t mastered the art of attending O.P.N.’s (Other People’s Nuptials).
Every year there are around 2.2 million weddings in the United States, and roughly 300,000 weddings here in the U.K. Multiply that by the length of the average guest list—about 200, in both countries—to get a sense of just how many of us go through the familiar routine: pick main course, pick present, pick outfit, pick date. If you’re in a serious relationship, the last choice is already made for you, but you can still find yourself picking—at each other.
The truth is that these lovely, sacred events—opportunities for voyeuristic romance and, hopefully, some amour of your own—often wreak havoc on relationships that are, shall we say, at the tipping point. Is it the sight of another couple making the ultimate commitment? The “are you two next?” factor? The sense that your friends are moving forward with their lives, and you’re in a holding pattern?
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1 Other Peoples Nuptials: Can They Make or Break Your Relationship? « Lance’s Weblog // Nov 23, 2007 at 11:53 pm
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2 JoJo // Jul 16, 2006 at 5:59 pm
Why are so many woman ready to RUSH to the alter? Nothing is more sacred and long lasting.
I appreciate the relationship I’m in and going to a wedding is an event about them…NOT us. Just relax and enjoy THEIR happy day and be HAPPY FOR THEM!
3 Anonymous // Jun 20, 2006 at 11:44 pm
I recently called off a wedding, days before the event..realizing, this man is not the one for me. Going to a wedding now would break us up I am sure. Any invites?
4 Anonymous // Jun 20, 2006 at 11:22 pm
she was just wishing she had martin cause when you don’t have someone…and you go to a wedding, it makes you sad. It makes you lonely. It makes you think that you will never find “the one”. but if things were not great…then do not settle…it just sets you up to miss out on the opportunity to find “the one”