Angie Harmon & Jason Sehorn on Role Playing, Vulnerability & Trust

It melts my heart when he/she …
AH: Holds my hand, or strokes my hair, or puts his arm around me. Just touch.
JS: Looks at me with that adoring “you’re my husband” look. I never take it for granted that this person loves me and is by my side.

It makes me nuts when he/she…
AH: Leaves the milk out. (Laughs.) And when he doesn’t pick up his cell phone. That sends me into orbit.
JS: Can’t find anything to wear—she’s got a wardrobe the size of a football stadium! But that probably bothers every male in America. The one thing that really makes me nuts is her perfectionist side. I’m just like, “Babe, take it easy on yourself.”

What’s your favorite room in the house?
AH: Our family room. It has cozy chenille couches and big overstuffed yummy pillows. It’s not pretentious. Our guests have fallen asleep on our couches—that’s the ultimate compliment.
JS: The theater. It’s a man’s room: brown suede paint, chocolate-colored carpet, brown theatre chairs, couches, four TVs, and all the drinks I could possibly need.

What do you do when he/she is away?
AH: I have a nervous breakdown because I’m taking care of both kids by myself! Last time, Finley had a cold and Avery was teething. I called him and said, “This is what I’m dealing with today; what are you dealing with?” JS: I sit on the couch in my boxers and watch TV. But I don’t have a life without Angie that’s different from my life with her.

What would be your ideal evening together?
AH: Dinner, movie, fabulous hotel. The thing is, we can never get to the hotel because we’re always like, “OK, let’s get back to see the girls.”
JS: The one thing that nobody tells you is that when you have kids, the alone time is taken away. So I’d take her someplace, have dinner, and end up at a hotel. We might get in a helicopter and go to Catalina.

How has having kids changed your relationship?
AH: When you have kids, you have to make a conscious effort to spend time with each other. We have date night. It was so funny—we started holding hands the other day, and it was strange feeling. We’re always holding our children’s hands, so his big hand felt crazy! We had a good laugh about it.
JS: Having children has opened up new lines of communication. There is so much more to debate. We understand each other’s strengths and weaknesses now.