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Spiritual Sex: 10 Erotic Commandments
Discover the sacred unity of body and soul when it comes to sex.
by Thomas Moore
The more sexual you become, engaging your entire being, the more your sexuality will be a route to the spirit. And when you pursue your spiritual goals in meditation, prayer, and ritual, you should eventually discover the body anew. You will find, as the Sufi teachers often say, that your ultimate lover is God. This is a great mystery, and I don’t mean to be at all disrespectful. But I do think that, in the end, spirituality allows all your experiences— and your entire world—to reveal the intimacy with which the divine presses itself upon you.
THE TEN EROTIC COMMANDMENTS
ETHICS.
The first step in the spiritual life is to move beyond narcissism and self-absorption. This is not a glamorous suggestion, but it is essential: Treat your partner honestly, respectfully, and kindly. It’s as simple as that. Spirituality begins in achieving a basic but difficult aspect of maturity—not being selfish. This doesn’t mean that you don’t take care of yourself and have full satisfaction in your sexual life, but, as the spiritual traditions consistently teach, you can’t be happy if those around you are not happy.
PARTNERSHIP.
Sex is a union of persons, not only bodies. You can prepare for sex by being an interesting person, bringing with you your intelligence, culture, ideas, values, and talents. It’s one thing to make love with a pretty body and another to be intimate with a real person. You can take time to talk to your partner, maybe at dinner before lovemaking. Don’t be afraid to talk about the things that matter. Letting a closely guarded thought emerge can lead to a physical sense of release. If you can’t do this with your dinner partner, then your sex may not be anything special.
VISION.
A spiritual person has a broad vision. He or she is interested in life, meaning, and the world. Vision is an aspect of transcendence and a reach beyond self. Sex usually begins and ends in conversation. Visionary talk, in contrast to mundane and self-centered chatter, can be vital and erotic.
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1 Antinous // Feb 26, 2008 at 10:04 pm
I’m a yoga teacher in the tantric tradition. Sex is pleasurable because it gives us a taste of spiritual ecstasy. Using your body for sex without spirit is like buying a luxury sportscar. You can sit in the driveway enjoying the leather upholstery and great stereo, and there’s nothing wrong with that. But you don’t really enjoy the car until you get it out on the highway and get her up to 120 mph.
2 mo tango // Feb 26, 2008 at 9:03 am
I’m not sure sex has to always be either spiritual or non-spiritual. I think it can be both.
3 Demetrius // Mar 14, 2007 at 9:38 pm
More women consider the sex act as a spiritual experience than men. Is the act itself awaken the spirit on another person?
The more you have sex with this one person, is the spiritual bond strengthened somehow between these couple?
I believe that good satisfying sex needs the participation of the body, soul or life and the spirit. The spirit being the most immaterial part of the soul but is in fact the most important in one’s existence.
Is this spiritual bonding carried for life for fortunate couples having a satisfying sexual relationship for many years. With separation from this person justifies frequent dreams of sex with this particular person a form of spiritual experience.
Still seeking the truth about the true relationship between sex and spirituality.