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The Etiquette of Oral Sex
The ups, downs and in-betweens of oral sex.
by Ky Henderson
“People who don’t enjoy oral sex generally have a psychological block,” Dr. Cadell says. “Like any other sexual activity, it all starts between the ears.” It can also start at the bargaining table. Angela, a 32-year old nurse, and her boyfriend, Vince, had a problem that apparently plagues all stand-up comics: At the end of the day, he wanted sex; she was tired and just wanted a massage.
“I jokingly suggested that if he would give me a massage that night, I’d give him a blow job when I was more awake the next day,” explains Angela. “He was totally into the idea. Although he was much better about keeping his commitment. I don’t like to give blow jobs when I’m not in the mood for sex.”
Caution: Don’t let lovemaking become a bargaining chip in your relationship or it will soon have all the luster of taking out the garbage or picking up dry cleaning. Instead, make the arrangement a game that everybody wins.
And speaking of winners, Trudy’s friends nearly choked on their chardonnay when the 25-year-old human resources manager described her husband’s, uh, spirited oral sex demands.
“He goes down on me pretty much every night,” says Trudy, who’s clearly blessed with the luck of all the shamrock- picking drunks in Ireland. “In fact it isn’t unusual for me to get a little tired of it and try to pull him up. Sometimes he relents, but other times he’s more persistent and insists on making me orgasm.”
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1 Robert Wm. King // Nov 22, 2008 at 4:17 pm
my girl just emailed me “she wants the whole of me in her mouth” I responded then what does she plan on doing with it? and did she know any tricks? Is that chauvenistic of me or should I just be happy to be there?
2 Robert Wm. King // Nov 22, 2008 at 4:05 pm
ETIQUETTE: I DIDN’T THINK I SHOULD “bow” and she “cirtsey” first before we go down, but then what ever it takes ………..
3 Tanya // Nov 17, 2008 at 3:53 pm
I just have to say that at the end of the article it says “don’t tell him what you want while his head is down there, but before!” but I think its ok to tell him/instruct him while he is down there. I actually had a guy tell me this. So go ahead ladies! Tell em what you like! and anytime!
4 Blogger Crush: Girl With A One-Track Mind // Aug 23, 2008 at 11:00 am
[…] Margolis no longer pens exposes about masturbation and graphic descriptions of cunnilingus, her blog is still a delightful read. These days she writes about the consequences of being a […]
5 Dark // Aug 5, 2008 at 9:04 pm
I give my boyfriend oral all the time. Not only does he enjoy it (duh) but I love doing it myself so its all good. The key is in the enthusiasm. Plus, its a good way to get your motor running for some good sex
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