Tantric Sex 101

by Chantal Martineau

If that sounds like couples therapy—well, that’s because it could be. A growing number of Western sexologists are starting to employ methods that echo tantric principles. (While your shrink might ask you to “respect each other,” your tantric guru would ask you to “acknowledge the divine in each other.”)

“When things go south for a couple, one of the first problems is often sexual,” says Richard Jordan, a clinical psychologist based in San Diego, California. “I find that a body-centered approach is much more effective than talk therapy in yielding change.”

Jordan, who says his study of tantra has improved his therapy practice, often incorporates its techniques into his clients’ treatments—be it G- spot (“sacred spot”) massage or breath work. Tantra, he explains, can help men overcome erectile dysfunction, which boosts their self-esteem and benefits their relationships.“We have a lot of mental and sexual energy, but the two don’t always connect,” he says. “When they do, sex has the potential to be the most intimate experience a couple shares.

Ready for some hands-on learning? Enlighten yourself at these workshops:

Arizona: Miraval’s four-night retreat, “Partners, Pleasure, and Passion,” includes workshop events, luxury accommodations, and gourmet meals. The price also includes spa services, a couples activity, and airport transportation.
$665/ person per night; www.miravalresort.com.