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Reaching The Simultaneous Orgasm
For couples, having an orgasm at the same time should be about fun not fuss.
by Ky Henderson
Positions definitely matter. Because few women can climax without some sort of clitoral stimulation, it’s important to be situated so that either the man or the woman can provide that friction—and having her on top gives both partners easy access.
There’s also the atrociously named “coital alignment technique,” a variation on the missionary position in which the man shifts his weight forward and the woman wraps her legs around him, keeping them relatively straight. She presses upward as he gently rocks backward, and—voilà!—clitoral stimulation.
Keep in mind that simultaneous orgasms still count if they’re achieved through manual or oral stimulation. In fact, many couples find those methods more productive, pointing out that they can even serve as springboards to full-on intercourse.
“We have the best luck coming together while 69-ing,” says Mark, a 27-year-old law student. “It’s just much easier to gauge how close my girlfriend is. I can either speed her up or slow her down depending on where I’m at—and she can do the same.”
When your face is … where your face is during oral sex, it’s usually fairly easy for you and your partner to figure out each other’s level of arousal, and time your orgasms. When you’re trying to come together during regular sex, communication is far more important.
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1 Debra // Sep 26, 2006 at 1:22 pm
I think it’s the powerful combination of coonection and deep love. You’re so insync with the person and you pay attention to the que. All women don’t need clitoral stimulation, I enjoy mine from deep penetration (not painful) but the deep movement and together we know each other. Over time its gotten better and more intense for both of us. We’re on the same wave length.
2 Anonymous // Jun 28, 2006 at 12:44 am
Tantric sex indeed is incredible and real. I have the luxury of truthfully saying that I am a totally passionate creature - but have truly had the most “simultaneous orgasms” with the one man I have truly loved the most in this world so far and that did make it better than anything else I have had. He would say “its not fair - you are just too good!! you are driving me crazy - but the fact is that it happened more because of our chemistry and true feelings for eachother. The times we were having “lottery talk” or telling eachother “our dreams” - was the hottest that way - I think you can make certain orgasms happen with tricks - but from experience - sometimes it is truly just pure love and chemistry that magically provides the hottest thing you have ever felt - in all positions. Awesome - just be free with who you love…and it will happen.
ILY P.
3 Anonymous // May 17, 2006 at 8:03 pm
Yes, expectations certainly have the potential to set a couple up for a less than expected experience but that doesn’t mean that an attempt can’t be made. This arguement would never stop a couple who have studied Tantric techniques.
The better you get at discovering and developing your own sexual/sensual potential the more enhanced your experiences will be. We are all responsible for our own pleasure - our partner is not. The more you learn, practice, explore, expand, and refine the more rewards you will reap. These are simple yet profound practices that have the potential to change not only your sexual experiences but your life.
Tantric sex isn’t really the destination, it’s simply one of the vehicles to the destination, but it is a very fun ride getting there!
Suzie@tantra.com