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S&M For Beginners
S&M pracitioners tend to be highly educated and other facts you may not know.
by Ky Henderson
In other words, you don’t need to sport latex underwear and handle a whip like Indiana Jones to start exploring. Begin with spanking or simple role-playing; look for substitute sex toys around the house.
“Clothespins can pinch, say, a breast in a way that, when you’re already aroused, can be intensely pleasurable,” explains Rachel Venning, co-founder of the sex shop Toys in Babeland. “And you can have a lot of fun spanking someone with a wooden spoon.”
Building trust, disciplining loved ones, using cooking utensils—S&M is actually pretty wholesome. How dirty it gets is up to you.
Ky Henderson is a writer in New York City.
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1 Squirt // Nov 13, 2008 at 1:08 am
TOPS AND BOTTOMS! Step right up and get your bondage gear, whips and restraints at tabutoys dot com. Love may hurt but your checkbook doesn’t have to!
2 ellen // Oct 10, 2008 at 10:45 pm
yes thomas i totally agree with you
3 ELLEN RIMER // Oct 10, 2008 at 10:36 pm
wow…i just read that article….i recntly met a man from overseas & he has alot more experience than i do…we’re supposed to meet in the summer and i can’t wait to see what he has in store 4 me…though we discuss in great lenght….i will be pushed to my extreme.
4 PsychoLogic // Aug 19, 2008 at 7:01 pm
For those curious about power exchange I interviewed a number of people at Shibaricon this spring in Chicago. Some interesting distinctions:
* Top/bottom: Gives/receives restraint, directions, usually physically.
* Dom/Domme(dominant)/sub(submissive): Gives/receives directions, takes/yields control, usually emotionally.
* Sadist/masochist: Gives/receives pain and punishment.
I was surprised to learn that power and pain and compliance were all on different scales, so you could have a non-submissive bottom (feisty) who enjoys being restrained but resists and fights back.
For a lot of people the scene is sexually arousing but not strictly gratifying, i.e. there is no orgasm at the end. It’s like a playground for grown-ups.
5 S&M Dude Claims Religious Freedom // Apr 11, 2008 at 10:05 am
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