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Inner Beauty: What Men Don’t Tell You
The guy's perspective on the elusive concept of "inner beauty."
by Ky Henderson
In other words, everyone is beautiful, and everyone isn’t—so objective beauty doesn’t exist. It’s a nice thought, but scientists have told us for years that humans instinctively equate facial and bodily symmetry with attractiveness, because it connotes health.
Some have even gone so far as to say that beauty is mathematical, and not as in 36-24-36. There’s a proportion (approximately 1:1.618), known as the “Golden Ratio”—fans of The Da Vinci Code may recognize it—that can be used to compare an array of human proportions, like the width of the nose compared to the width of the mouth, to create a facial and body structure that is almost universally pleasing.
Of course, small asymmetries can augment a woman’s beauty—think of Tina Fey’s scar, or Kate Bosworth’s different-colored eyes. A coworker of mine once attempted an ill-advised back flip into a pool and landed teeth-first on the edge of the diving board. She knocked out one front tooth and chipped the other so badly it became known as “the can opener.”
But her good-natured acceptance of the relentless taunting she endured—her missing tooth was eventually found lodged in the family dog’s paw—combined with her charming attempts to keep her mouth shut when she laughed at herself, were, strangely, beautiful.
I thought this even though I’m neither blind nor a hillbilly, and, admittedly, I was also relieved—though not as much as she was—when her teeth were fixed.
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1 beautiful_inside_n_out // May 30, 2008 at 5:38 am
One way to understand what “Inner beauty” means is to try falling in love with a super good looking model only to find out she has a very evil attitude (she thinks highly of herself being to proud and know-it-all-type, speaks bad about others, lies and fool around with other men. This and try falling inlove with someone with an physical beauty that is not your type only knowing that she is very kind, humble,willing to love you in your ups and downs, understanding, true and real to herself, have good relationship with other people, faithful, and God-fearing. Maybe by that you will know what beauty means. But of course, it would depend on the person on what beauty means to himself. In a nutshell though, external beauty is what that fades thru time, and internal is what lasts.
2 Lyss // Apr 11, 2008 at 4:19 pm
External beauty catches the eyes & lures for lasviciousness only during one’s prime. Internal beauty defines character and is interminable. It’s agreeable that blatant beauty is external, but when given a second one will realize it’s internal. Men who seek mere external beauty will treat women like object; like a child, he’ll play with the new toy but throws it when it gets old & when a nicer and newer invention comes out. It would be more prudent for a man to attract himself to a woman by her irresistable beauty while at the same time consider her internal beauty to define definite beauty. I’d prefer that.
3 tv // Apr 11, 2008 at 2:21 pm
“But beauty is tangible, beauty is sensory, and beauty is external.” I really feel sorry for those who have this ideal set in stone. There are so many personality traits that can make an ugly person beautiful and a beautiful person ugly. I find the line of thought of this author to be incredibly shallow and childish. By the way, I’m not ugly so this is coming from someone who DOES get oogled.
4 Zeigy // Apr 11, 2008 at 1:20 pm
I’ve tried liking ugly chicks but I can’t. I feel somewhat guilty for being partial to good looking babes and it’s made me resent them. Now I feel no special emotions or feelings towards either class. I just ignore my natural drives and don’t pursue women. I still flirt but even when I get signals I don’t take the relationship very far.
5 Karen Rose // Apr 8, 2008 at 7:30 pm
Was this article supposed to contain a revelation? I’ve known this since I was an average-looking teenage girl. There are no surprises here — except for those who have really been kidding themselves.
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