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Inner Beauty: What Men Don’t Tell You
The guy's perspective on the elusive concept of "inner beauty."
by Ky Henderson
Was her snaggle-toothed allure an example of that inner beauty I claim doesn’t exist? Not exactly. But I do think the way she acted, who she was, enhanced her beauty. If who you are can detract from how you look (and it certainly can; just think of Paris Hilton when she opens her mouth … to speak), then by definition it also can add.
I know a woman who is more beautiful now than she was ten years ago—and she was stunning then—because of the laugh lines around her eyes. Her personality has had a tangible, physical effect on her external appearance.
But, as my elementary-school crush taught me, there’s another thing that can affect a woman’s looks. A year and a half after that discombobulating first day of fourth grade, we were let out of class before lunch and sent to the local roller rink.
Emboldened by the sugar rush from a large cherry Icee, I approached the green-eyed girl when the music slowed and the lights went down for a couples skate. The disco ball over the rink sprinkled dizzying light through her long-again hair.
She’d eased into preadolescence gracefully, and her ant-incinerating glasses were nowhere to be seen. She was beautiful once more—until she turned down my invitation to skate. As I discovered that day, somewhat humiliatingly, few qualities—internal or external—make a woman as attractive as her feeling the same way about me.
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1 beautiful_inside_n_out // May 30, 2008 at 5:38 am
One way to understand what “Inner beauty” means is to try falling in love with a super good looking model only to find out she has a very evil attitude (she thinks highly of herself being to proud and know-it-all-type, speaks bad about others, lies and fool around with other men. This and try falling inlove with someone with an physical beauty that is not your type only knowing that she is very kind, humble,willing to love you in your ups and downs, understanding, true and real to herself, have good relationship with other people, faithful, and God-fearing. Maybe by that you will know what beauty means. But of course, it would depend on the person on what beauty means to himself. In a nutshell though, external beauty is what that fades thru time, and internal is what lasts.
2 Lyss // Apr 11, 2008 at 4:19 pm
External beauty catches the eyes & lures for lasviciousness only during one’s prime. Internal beauty defines character and is interminable. It’s agreeable that blatant beauty is external, but when given a second one will realize it’s internal. Men who seek mere external beauty will treat women like object; like a child, he’ll play with the new toy but throws it when it gets old & when a nicer and newer invention comes out. It would be more prudent for a man to attract himself to a woman by her irresistable beauty while at the same time consider her internal beauty to define definite beauty. I’d prefer that.
3 tv // Apr 11, 2008 at 2:21 pm
“But beauty is tangible, beauty is sensory, and beauty is external.” I really feel sorry for those who have this ideal set in stone. There are so many personality traits that can make an ugly person beautiful and a beautiful person ugly. I find the line of thought of this author to be incredibly shallow and childish. By the way, I’m not ugly so this is coming from someone who DOES get oogled.
4 Zeigy // Apr 11, 2008 at 1:20 pm
I’ve tried liking ugly chicks but I can’t. I feel somewhat guilty for being partial to good looking babes and it’s made me resent them. Now I feel no special emotions or feelings towards either class. I just ignore my natural drives and don’t pursue women. I still flirt but even when I get signals I don’t take the relationship very far.
5 Karen Rose // Apr 8, 2008 at 7:30 pm
Was this article supposed to contain a revelation? I’ve known this since I was an average-looking teenage girl. There are no surprises here — except for those who have really been kidding themselves.
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