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Anal Sex For Beginners
An estimated one-fourth of straight couples have had anal sex. How-to advice.
by Ky Henderson
Outside of MTV shows and “family” comedies, most people aren’t eager to talk about their butts—especially with their partners. But it doesn’t need to be a face-reddening experience. “If you and your partner speak openly and directly about sex, then be open and direct about your anal desires,” Taormino says. “If you’re unsure about how your partner may respond, bring it up in an indirect way.”
When you decide to try it out, go very slowly. Most couples agree that anal sex only works when both people are very turned on, so spend time building up to it doing whatever gets you going—oral sex, vaginal sex, watching old episodes of Hart to Hart. And remember what Mother told you: Anything you stick up a butt should be generously coated with a heavy water-based lube like Astroglide Gel or Maximus.
That can’t be stressed enough. Unlike the vagina and much like the internal combustion engine, the anus is not self-lubricating. Insufficiently lubed, you’re susceptible to tiny internal tears, which can cause pain and infection, and encourage the spread of STDs. But that doesn’t mean anal sex is inherently more dangerous. As long as you use a condom and there’s enough lube, you’ll be reasonably safe. To avoid nasty bacterial infections, remember that it’s like stroking a porcupine: You can go front to back, but never back to front.
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1 Carly Morrell // Nov 19, 2008 at 6:29 pm
Me and my boyfriend just started trying anal sex, ( so good). We are both virgins so no STDs or anything, is it necessary to wear a condomn or should we basically not bother?
2 Jim // Oct 22, 2008 at 7:11 pm
yes, i enjoy anal sex very much, in the past my mother has taught me how to do it and it has come very much in handy recently when me and my girlfriend sky angel did it for the first time
3 asdf // Sep 25, 2008 at 4:17 am
I’m a guy and I have played around with my share of girls. Anal for me does not feel physically as good as vaginal. It is a lot hotter though.
There seems to be two main reasons why guys insist on anal, the right way and the wrong way.
The right way is the guy and the girl are pervs and just love the feelings that come along with it. I like to think of myself as a perv. A woman begging to be fucked in the ass is about the hottest thing on the planet to me.
The wrong way is to be a dick and a woman hater and get off on dominating or punishing women via anal sex. Judging from the responses there are still a few too many of these types out there.
Obviously you need to be safe, use lube, have a little patience and use a condom (even in monogamous relationships, you don’t want a urinary infection).
As for all the negative nancies in here spreading fear, uncertainty and doubt about anal sex, I have to thank them in a way because without their tireless bible thumping it wouldn’t be so dirty and sexy.
4 smoke // Sep 24, 2008 at 10:46 am
ANAL SEX….UMMMMM….well lets just say I couldn’t live without it. It such a different type of orgasm and as long as you know how to properly maintain yourself it’s not dirty in the least bit. I can’t stand to see comments made by small minded people who’ve never even given it a try. I bet they’re scared they just might like it.
5 Kenny // Sep 18, 2008 at 8:40 pm
Anal sex is a fantasy of many women… even the most innocent!
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