Annoying Habits Can Ruin Relationships

by Pamela Weintraub and Mark Teich

Marthe*, an event planner for a New York City nonprofit, ended a relationship because of a laugh. “I met him on the tennis courts. He was smart, pleasant, and a good player who loved the game as much as I did,” she says.

Bonded by their shared lust for the sport, a romance was born. But after about a year, she found a trait she couldn’t tolerate off the courts.

“If we were at a party or out with friends and anyone told a joke, he’d burst out laughing—always louder than anybody else,” she says. “He’d bray, snort, and wheeze like some asthmatic animal. Everyone’s eyes would go wide.”

Marthe hoped the quirk would fade in time. No such luck. Soon the intensity of her tennis partner’s guffaws began to affect his sex appeal. “I became repulsed; I had to break it off,” she says. “I never even told him my lame reason for ditching him.”

Modern-Day Dealbreaker
If Marthe’s story sounds funny, it may be because the things we tend to end relationships over usually aren’t. Typically, they’re big, dramatic romantic wrecking balls: infidelity, an addiction, or differences in opinion about a major life decision, like whether to get married or have kids.