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Why I Proposed To Him
A change of heart leads the author to propose to her boyfriend.
by Jeanann Pannasch
My plan was to propose in Vail during our Christmas snowboarding trip. That gave me two weeks to figure out exactly how a woman asks a man to marry her, and to find the courage to do it. I had questions: Does kneeling apply to women, too? Should I arrange a candlelit dinner? Do I need an audience for dramatic effect? I decided to wing it, with one condition: I had to ask before midnight on Christmas.
But as our vacation progressed and as the hours wore on, I was overcome with doubt. Thanks to the combined effects of severe altitude sickness and the flu, I had been carting around a portable oxygen tank for days. I spent Christmas Day vomiting, and hadn’t showered. I was wearing gray plaid flannel pajamas, my hair was matted to my head, and I had tubes coming out of my nose.
In other words, I was about to ask a man to spend the rest of his life with me, and I had never looked worse. Was I crazy? I wouldn’t agree to marry me right now. Hell, in this condition, I wouldn’t even take myself to the movies.
As the clock crept closer to my midnight deadline, I kept stalling. At 11:45, we kissed goodnight and Andrew rolled over. I slid out of bed and pulled the ring box out of the nightstand. I held it for a moment and then, fumbling in the darkness, placed the box back in the drawer. I crawled back into bed, defeated. I had failed.
Weeks later, back in L. A., without the romance of the holidays, I was without a plan. My insecurities were at a full boil: how would I be judged for asking my boyfriend to marry me? I pictured my friends and family secretly wondering, “Wow, she had to ask him? Poor thing.”
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1 The Married Grass is Greener // Feb 28, 2008 at 11:04 am
[…] decision to bear, as a source of joy instead of a burden she desperately wants a break from? Women choose to get married for reasons other than having kids or societal pressure, so it seems that one secret to success […]
2 It Takes Three, Baby // Feb 18, 2008 at 9:38 am
[…] Curiously, women feel ready for marriage an average four months earlier than their blokes. In fact, ten percent of women in the UK decide to propose themselves. […]
3 Tara // Feb 6, 2008 at 10:45 am
I am happy that it worked out but typically if a guy is not aksing you, it is for a reason. He is not ready. I hope women don’t do this in an effort to “lock” down their man.
4 Lorraine K Ebbin // Dec 26, 2007 at 9:16 am
and now there is gorgeaous baby ‘S’ to really show the world a beautiful love. All who meet you see that love and are blessed to know you.
Cousin Karen told me about the article and I googled it. Good stuff girl! Love to all…
5 Quitze // Dec 24, 2007 at 10:12 am
sigh, maybe there is still some ray of hope left for me lol. <—Same scenario