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Until recently, neither Frank nor I had a lot of hobbies. We’d do normal stuff like hang out with friends, read, go to the gym, watch TV, go for walks, and eat, but didn’t do anything in an organized way that I would describe as hobby-like.
We both wrote, but that’s less a hobby than something we’d both do for a living in a magical world where money didn’t exist. For me, working, writing, relaxing, and just generally staying alive took up pretty much all of my time.
But lately, both of us have started these little hobby-ish projects: Frank is learning how to brew beer, and I’ve decided to try and grow some heirloom tomatoes (I love those things, but at $3 a pound I almost went broke eating caprese salad last summer.) Both of us have gotten into cooking in a way that is more cooking for cooking’s sake than preventing starvation. We’re attempting to start a literary magazine with some friends. After much cajoling from my mother, I’ve started making this hippie homemade cat food for the cats, and I’ve been packing my lunch in a special little bento box. I’ve got plans to take a class this summer, and do an art project, and maybe even start a little dinner party club with my pals.
What I’m wondering is, is does this make us old and lame? Are we the late-twenties equivalent of some guy shuffling around his garage in a bathrobe and engineer’s cap, tinkering with his Lionel train set? Does this indicate that we are bored and bourgeois, too settled into life?
I hope not. In a way, our new hobbies are all versions of things we already did: eating, drinking beer, bringing lunch, eating some more. Perhaps, as we get a little older and a (very) little more secure financially, we are starting put more care and thought into our day-to-day routines.
I also think that as we get increasingly comfortable with each other, we get less and less embarrassed to suggest stuff like tomato growing and beer brewing. At this point, if Frank thinks I’m a freak show for feeding people food to the cats, he’s at least somewhat implicated in the weirdness.
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1 Roxanne // Apr 23, 2007 at 1:17 am
I am happy to say that my current and hopefully lasting relationship is actually based on what you have to say about hobbies, or whatever. Sharing time together doing just about anything can be fun and loving! With the added plus of having individual goals that are supported and quite possibly acquired
It is totally awesome to be in a relationship that can grow and mature independently, while being very committed. I believe that being committed with another should be a time to be yourself and enjoy a lot of other activities - especially new experiences shared with another is the BOMB!
2 Leticiah // Apr 6, 2007 at 4:19 pm
As a hard-core and proud of it feminist, it surprises me that I feel exactly the same way you do. BTW, our tomato sproutlings are cuter than yours… and cooking nutritionally balanced homemade dog food is harder than it sounds.