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Stuff that might seem depressing and old maid-ish if I were single–packing my bento box, for instance–isn’t as creepy with Frank around. It shouldn’t be that way, but for some reason it is. In a way, I think that that is one of the major societal advantages to couplehood: being allowed to do stuff that single people can’t for fear of never getting laid.
It sounds dumb, but there’s a freedom that comes with being committed to someone. You don’t have to worry so much about dying alone in your sad old lady apartment and having your cats eat your corpse to keep from starving because nobody finds you for two weeks, so you don’t worry as much about doing things that might creep people out. Who cares if some guy from work is creeped out? He doesn’t have to sleep with you.
It feels strange and anti-feminist to think that way–presumably, one should feel that kind of freedom with or without a partner–and yet I kind of do. Maybe I shouldn’t over-think it. After all, my little tomato sproutlings make me so happy. My cute little bento lunch makes me so happy. My organic cats make me so happy. So if this is being old and lame, well, I guess that’s what makes me happy.
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1 Roxanne // Apr 23, 2007 at 1:17 am
I am happy to say that my current and hopefully lasting relationship is actually based on what you have to say about hobbies, or whatever. Sharing time together doing just about anything can be fun and loving! With the added plus of having individual goals that are supported and quite possibly acquired
It is totally awesome to be in a relationship that can grow and mature independently, while being very committed. I believe that being committed with another should be a time to be yourself and enjoy a lot of other activities - especially new experiences shared with another is the BOMB!
2 Leticiah // Apr 6, 2007 at 4:19 pm
As a hard-core and proud of it feminist, it surprises me that I feel exactly the same way you do. BTW, our tomato sproutlings are cuter than yours… and cooking nutritionally balanced homemade dog food is harder than it sounds.