Date Night

I’ve gotten a lot of feedback regarding my “Kissing Advisory” blog.  Overwhelmingly, comments include some kind of “thank-you” for stoking the fire.  The bad news here is that my non-scientific survey was accurate and a lot of couples out there have misplaced the fire that maintains the passion.  The good news is that the flame can be found (sometimes as easily as reading some advice that reminds you where to look).

How can we unearth our lost passion, and dig up what started it all?  After all, falling in love is one of the most exciting times of our lives.  How can that be recaptured?  Can a little making-out get us there?  What else can stoke the fire?

The excitement of falling in love wasn’t totally embodied by the kiss, other events took place when we first dated to make our blood run hot.  I believe if we can reproduce, manufacture even, some of the outward manifestations of romantic love, then hopefully the blood will remember how to sizzle.

Some items to consider (think back now) for this endeavor:
1.    Making out (already discussed)
2.    Dating
3.  Holding hands, and other out-of-bed touching
4.  Sexual experimenting
5.  Talking on the phone; heck, just talking to each other (not kid or household related topics)
6.     Enjoying, reveling, and savoring your sexual life

I will blog about these topics over the next couple of weeks. Today’s topic is #2:   DATING.

A lot of couples have instituted, are thinking about starting, or at least have heard of the concept of “date night”.  Many self-help marriage gurus counsel for it, as I do.  If you‘ve missed the advice, it is to set aside one night per week (or bi-weekly, or monthly!) to go on a date with your spouse.  The key here is that the day is sacrosanct; there is no messing with it, i.e. no forgetting, or making other plans, or excuses.  Come hell or high water (or fighting), the two of you will go on that date! (This is in a perfect world because there are kid’s band concerts, visiting relatives, etc… that do trump date night.)