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Short Man in Love
One (vertically challenged) writer comes up short in the romance department.
by Jonathan Bender
“Ah, can’t be,” I stammer.
“It’s right there. 90 percent of men are in the blue stripe, five percent above and five percent below. You’re in the bottom five percent,” Kate says, not unkindly.
It is then that I realize I have condemned my future children to a life of holding the chalkboard sign in elementary school photos.
Portland, ME, 2002. Kate is now my girlfriend. We sit at a picnic table, our feet dangling above the ground, when she reveals her theory on short men in the dating world.
“Have you always been confident with women?” she asks me, her spoon swirling around a cup of frozen yogurt.
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1 FM // Oct 3, 2008 at 12:04 pm
This article has really taken my interest. I am 5′2″ and the man I’m currently interested in is a couple of inches shorter than me. We’re both in our teens and surprisingly he’s had more relationships than I’ve ever had. I’ll admit I’m the kind to fall for the tall-dark-handsome type but in the end personality wins me over and my short guy has a lot of it.
Great things definitely come in small packages and don’t understimate the charm of a shorter man.
2 waimoenaung // Sep 12, 2008 at 12:45 am
i am 5ft 4 in , i am looking tall girls above 5 ft 8 in …
unvalid …max height
3 love goddess // Sep 9, 2008 at 9:03 pm
I’m surprised at how many women complain about a shorter man making them feel like ‘less of a woman’. I’m a six foot tall girl and I don’t feel less feminine if I’m with a shorter man. In fact, when I’m in love, I feel all the more womanly even if the man is shorter. I really agree with below poster (Jay) that it’s the qualities of manliness (great list! you pegged it) that really attract a woman. If a man’s height can make you feel less of a girl, I think it has more to do with the woman’s own comfort in her femininity.
4 Jay // Sep 3, 2008 at 2:11 am
This is for all the men posting here:
I’m a 5′7″man and I have never thought of myself as a short man, but as more or less average at least on the global scale. These guys who are 5′7″ or so and blame their lackluster love lives on lack of height are full of sh*t. They need to “man up” and stop whining (maybe it sounds harsh, but its true). Yeah, most women probably fantasize about “tall, dark, and handsome” men like on those Barilla commercials with Mr. Italy serving up a hot plate of pasta, but women are attracted to general manliness, and manliness is much more than height. It is being level-headed, stoic, dominant, good natured, chivalrous, strong, intelligent, fit, motivated and able to lead. I know plenty of tall men who are pussies/wimps who I would never “look up” to or even want to associate with as friends because they just seem boring, weak, dull, domesticated, even effeminate. The richest man I know (150+ million), the smartest man I know (Ph.D. mathematician, and also extremely ripped/athletic), and the most dangerous and strongest man I know (competitive mixed martial arts) are all noticeably shorter than I am. I do think that shorter men are sometimes unfairly labeled as “Napoleonic syndrome” just for exhibiting normal levels of male aggressiveness or exercising legitimate authority. People forget that Napoleon ACTUALLY WAS one of the greatest military leaders in history who accomplished more than most men dream of. Plenty of powerful leaders have been (and are) of below average height. To all you whining men: get over it and act like a man. Do some push-ups and use your whole being to find a woman who is attracted to you like a magnet for the amazing beacon of manliness that you are. Really all you need to do is seek women who you can connect with on the right plane of consciousness/wavelength. For your own sake, do not take sh*t from any woman who does not respect you as a “real man”.
5 Anne // Aug 21, 2008 at 12:55 pm
I’m 5′8″ and have dated men shorter, they always said they were taller for some reason. I am sorry to say I did not want to date a shorter man, it made me feel less like a real woman. I felt more masculare when with them, and couldn’t were heels. However, I did marry a man about and inch shorter — he was a good in many ways.
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