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Why Am I Still Single?
New research says there's a reason you're single--and meant to stay that way.
by Kristine Gasbarre
I was on the phone with my friend Beth, a 31-year-old international sales exec at a major Hollywood film studio.
“I can’t believe a four-year relationship could end with us living on two separate coasts,” she said, “But he was traveling so much and I finally just told him, ‘This is not what I signed up for when I got involved with you.’ So, we’re officially separated.”
She sighed. I sighed.
“Anyway enough about me, what about you, Italian girl? I thought they worshiped American women in the land of pasta and love, why are you still single?”
If I had a euro for every time I wondered that: Why am I still single. It’s a question more than half of American women ask themselves, according to a report the New York Times put out in early 2007. This data includes women who live apart from their significant others, but all independent variables aside it’s a figure that’s rocketed significantly in the last couple decades.
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1 Jane // Sep 7, 2008 at 10:52 am
Marriage is no longer the only game in town, and the game has dramatically changed, as evidenced by this article…..as well as a new documentary film called “Single” - which explores all the new complexities of relationships today. check it out at singlefilm.com
2 Waiting in Vain // Aug 4, 2008 at 4:45 pm
[…] that explain why I’m still single? I won’t over analyze that one. But I do believe I deserve one hell of an apartment. So […]
3 Gina // Jul 13, 2008 at 7:20 pm
I completely agree about the comment with Myspace and Facebook as to why people aren’t connecting like they used to. I feel the exact same way about promoting yourself with flashy pictures and so called friends which are fans not friends of your site, not friends. I just see it as a lack of depth. I have been on dating sites with hope to connect in real time. Posted a few pics, a little bit about myself only to find men wanting to know if I had a Myspace page!! Im like what the heck, the objective here is to see who we are in person!! I keyed in Why am I still single? Because I have been asked that from people I met offline that I had no attraction to which made me ask it myself! In realistic terms I think that in real time I have to seriously have a mind set that I want to be involved. I do actually think that in the society today that it is better for individuals to know themselves deeper before getting involved but the downside of that is people finding a relationship later in life. To be honest I couldn’t imagine myself getting married in my early 20s… but there also has been dysfunction in my family with all kinds of personal growth stuff I needed before I could attract a healthy person. Anyhow I enjoyed reading the post and again… I think these social networking sites are very immature and lack substance! I guess that’s another checklist quality I have to add “doesn’t have a Myspace Page!”
4 Stevo // May 9, 2008 at 2:48 pm
Sure thing ecco28, and it’s time men got something out of marriage besides “Ummm, I have a headache.”
5 ecco28 // Mar 24, 2008 at 9:12 pm
Um, I don’t agree. Society continues to tell women our ultimate goal is to get married — yes the Sex and the City girls had fun being single, but they weren’t supposed to be single forever. Why shouldn’t we demand more — women have been the givers for centuries, it’s time we got something out of marriage besides more housework.
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