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The (Open) Marriage Contract
If you design your marriage as a business, what does the contract look like?
by Dan Eldridge
“The mission of the company,” she said, “is our success as a couple. So we took something that commonly breaks up marriages—which is finances and money—and we basically turned it into a little project. It’s fun!”
Imagine that! A marriage and a business, and both of them fun. I think we might just be onto something.
Dan Eldridge is a Lonely Planet guidebook writer, the author of Moon Handbooks Pittsburgh (Avalon Travel), and the publisher of Young Pioneers, a magazine about creative entrepreneurs. He lives in Philadelphia, and his website is pioneercontent.com
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1 BIlly // Jul 21, 2008 at 7:35 pm
Actually Mike, I don’t think you get it. I came to non-monogamy after 8 years of marriage, as kind of a last resort, and things have never been better. We didn’t do anything extra-marital for over a year after deciding to open things up, but just changing away from a traditionalist jealousy-based relationship made for far more honest and open communication. I think there are as many ways to give yourself to another person as there are different types of people, and we shouldn’t be so closed off to what might be a better option for many.
2 Mike // Mar 7, 2008 at 9:18 am
Theres something your easily missing. Its not about the term marriage or monogamy. Its about 2 people. If you love someone enough while it is in your nature to flirt and fantasize. It is your commitment to the other person that sees you through. You dont seem to realize that your trivializing ALL your relationships, and obviously you put minimal thought into entering into a new one. If you do your research while car shopping and you spend your time to actually learn about the cars before you get into them, you determine your budget gas millage and all other important considerations (such as I really like that car) you will be much happier committing to that car then with some used lemon that went for really cheap.
Did you go for her just for her looks and the fact you could get in her pants? It looks like your to conservative to think that you can just have sex and not form a relationship, but to liberal to think that maybe you should have gotten to know her before hopping into the sack.
Historically this relationship has been called having a Mistress or Concubines. It nothing new, but the terms aren’t Politically correct. Those relationships were just about sex and not commitment, but often they led to commitment but not marriage.
Youve jaded yourselves so badly by constantly looking for easy relationships you never knew how to be picky enough to find one you will actually enjoy being with. Then by some stroke of luck (assuming you 2 are actually compatible for more then 5 years) you find someone you enjoy being with for themselves you don’t know how to handle this different type of relationship. Sad to say you’ve never had a successful relationship. Good luck, but try to think outside the box, Sometimes love lasts a lifetime, don’t sell yourself short. Prevent defense never works. But Manning to Tyree is forever.
3 welltempered // Mar 4, 2008 at 5:45 am
Every man says they will not get married. My guess is you’ll be married by years end.
4 JonnyHairdont // Mar 3, 2008 at 2:27 pm
This is a great, progressive idea. But aren’t holding companies taxable?