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Porn: When It Helps & When It Hurts
Some couples use it to sex up a relationship. For others, it spells the end.
by Anne Marie O'Connor
Maltz’s work with sex addicts has led her to adopt a zero-tolerance attitude toward porn. “I do not think that using porn as a sexual outlet is ever benign,” she says. “You don’t know when you can cross over from casual curiosity to dependency. That switch can happen very quickly, and then it can be very difficult to go back. And trying to quit can be as hard as getting off hard drugs.”
Below, signs your partner might have a problem, according to Maltz’s book, The Porn Trap:
-Possessing porn materials or accessing porn sites on the web
-Unaccounted absences or time
-Excessive or late night computer use
-Social and emotional withdrawal
-Changes in bedtime rituals
-Lying and secretive behavior
-Defensiveness when questioned about porn use
*Names have been changed.
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1 Gwynne // Aug 19, 2008 at 2:09 pm
I’m a woman and I love porn. I also masturbate daily, not because I don’t have a wonderful,attractive,attentive spouse(because I do). For me its simply a sensual,self indulgent wayto pay homage to my fabulous self. Women need to get overtheir hang ups and insecurities and I bet your sex life will improve–with porn or without it!
2 Art // Aug 9, 2008 at 8:34 pm
I think what people forget is that they shouldn’t always equate love with sex. Sex doesn’t have to be for love. I think all can agree love and sex go together wonderfully. Kind of like chocolate covered strawberries. If we all remembered this I’d venture to say a lot less jealously would come about. AND a lot less lying. Feel comfortable with who you are and, love and trust your partners. Who cares about porn when it has nothing to do with love?
3 Lizbeth // Aug 8, 2008 at 11:51 am
Porn is for the unimaginative and plain lazy. For the most part the most boring men I have known were well into porn. The more thoughtful, creative and interesting the man is the more likely he is to want to create his own sex life rather than watch someone else’s or watch two actors imitating one.
I really think the reason so many men are into porn is because they lack the creativity that most women naturally have when it comes to sex.
4 sean // Aug 5, 2008 at 1:54 am
it has its place & if that’s kept in mind then there’s no problem. since many women seem to get physically bored with the one partner (though not emotionally) one of porn’s uses can be to provide enough relief so that the man is not over demanding from the woman’s perspective
5 Barbara // Jul 30, 2008 at 1:14 am
Can’t IMAGINE porn helping anyone!!
Porn is objectifying and millions of men in the US alone now suffer from Centerfold Syndrome — every women they date or want to be with has to be a PERFECT 10 or no way.
No connection, no emotion, no talking, no intellectual sparks… nothing but that perfect body & perfect orgasm.
Having known a porn addict I can say it is the saddest waste of time and must hurtful thing to even be friends with one of these men.
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