Hidden Camera: Good For Your Sex Life?

by Blane Bachelor

Unless they were video experts or wanted to watch hours of footage, it would be difficult for a couple to recreate the camera scenario for themselves. So what can they do to get the same uncensored, honest look at each other, themselves and their relationship?

You can talk about it, and give your partner a safe harbor to say what they need to say without attacking them. And then be willing to understand, if not agree, with their perception of what’s happening. It’s easy to see what your partner is doing wrong. It’s very difficult to see what you’re doing wrong. Every snowflake in the avalanche pleads not guilty. But the camera is actually pointing one big finger point at you— yes, you!

But without the actual presence of camera, there’s a question I always like to ask: What would cameras in the bedroom, and beyond, say about your love life? What would it reveal? It’s kind of a sobering question. And I think every relationship would benefit by both partners considering it.

Michael Alvear is the creator of Blabbermash.com, the first video sharing sex advice site. Blane Bachelor, an Atlanta-based freelance writer has not yet allowed the camera into her bedroom.