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I’m Open: Why Jenny Wants to Talk
Tango's newest blogger answers your questions about open marriage.
by Jenny Block
I’m in an open marriage and my new book, “Open: Love, Sex, and Life in an Open Marriage” is hitting the shelves as we “speak.” That’s the short of it. You can read the full story right here on the Tango website. First, there’s the piece called “Portrait of an Open Marriage” that was actually the inspiration for the book. And then there’s the follow-up piece that I wrote two years later called “Portrait of an Open Marriage. Take Two.” I wrote that for the same reason that I will be blogging here – because the topic of open relationships leads to lots of questions for lots of people.
I’ll be here every week to answer your questions, respond to your comments, and address things in my relationships as well as issues in the world at large when it comes to all things related to love, sex, marriage, and relationships related, especially open relationships. I plan to start with a few questions that I’ve been storing up. They’re questions that a number of people have asked and so I figured they’d be great for a forum like this.
One of the most common questions I get is - Why talk publicly about this? The answer is two-fold. First is because I’m a writer and it’s what I do. There is nothing better than honest writing. So if I’m going to write memoir, my marriage and relationships are going to naturally be a part of that. The second reason is more complex. I reveal myself because I believe people need that from one another.
We all live such isolated lives in some ways. We go from our house to our car to our cubicle, stopping only to tell the kids to have a good day at school, the barista whether it’s a grande or a venti kind of day, and our co-workers when we need that Power Point presentation finished. But the truth is that we’re dying for human connection. And one of the reasons that we want that connection is so that we can feel “normal.”
I think there are a lot of people out there in unhappy marriages, trapped by the social construct and all that it demands. But monogamous marriage is the one and only thing that we’re told is possible. That or, ultimately, being alone. And so we sign up and we hang in despite biological desire for more sexual partners and/or more loving relationships.
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1 JAXGIRL6681 // Aug 11, 2008 at 2:13 pm
Twistedangel - Why do you have to be so cruel? So she’s not super model material, what difference does it make? If you don’t like her, why are you still reading her stuff?
LOL - You’re “one of those people that finds promiscuity to be really disgusting.” But yet you ask to see pictures of her hubby and claim he might be “your cup of tea” even though you have a boyfriend. That sounds slightly hypocritical.
2 twistedangel // Aug 6, 2008 at 3:38 pm
poor thing is such a bow wow…….everytime someone porks her she probably thinks she’s gorgeous..it builds her self esteem. I feel pity for her.
3 john // Jun 25, 2008 at 12:22 pm
Do you help your husband get some ladies? Or is he uninterested in being open?
4 Erin // Jun 8, 2008 at 8:15 am
I just finished your book & have to congratulate you on being so open & honest about this type of arrangement. My husband and I are in an open marriage too, and related to so much of what you said in your book. Every time I turned the page, not only did I understand my husband more (you and he think very much alike), but also my marriage more - and felt less alone in walking this walk.
Thank you & good luck to you as your journey continues.
5 lol // Jun 7, 2008 at 4:51 pm
I hope it’s him because she is UGLY. My boyfriend saw her picture
http://www.mediabistro.com/content/original/008.dal-thumb.jpg
and ..
he said, “she looks like one of those slutty, leathery cougar women.”
And I said, “but that’s exactly what she is.”
And then he said, “well, I wouldn’t eff her.”
And I wouldn’t either. I’m one of those people that finds promiscuity to be really disgusting. So, she’s not my cup of tea. But maybe her hubby is?? Can we get a pic of him or what? lol…
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