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The Heart Wants What it Wants
Jenny Block writes about being in love with two people at once.
by Jenny Block
“The heart wants what it wants,” the saying goes. I can’t say I disagree. Last week I answered an email from someone who wanted to know if it was possible to open a marriage and dictate that no one fall in love. You can check out last week’s entry for the answer. I’ll give you a hint – it depends…
But I promised then that I would complete my answer by explaining more about how the concept of polyamory works for me. You see, when we first opened our marriage, I certainly imagined that it was possible for us to refrain from falling in love with someone else. That wasn’t the point as far as we were concerned.
Instead, it was about seeking sex and companionship that would complement the love we had within my marriage. I figured, like I think most people do, that I didn’t need to love anyone else romantically and, in fact, that I couldn’t.
Nothing could have turned out to be further from the truth.
When I met Jemma (my girlfriend of more than a year and a half now), we became fast friends. But it wasn’t long before our friendship intensified and turned into something all together different. It began with our sleeping together. But it soon became, well, love. And not just the kind between best friends. It was something more romantic than what one generally has with a friend. That is, I didn’t just love her. I was (and am) in love with her.
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1 deborah // Nov 19, 2008 at 1:36 pm
I want to reply by saying Jema is a girl for you and your husband. What if the person whom you loved was John the male person. Would you still be with your husband in a plentyfull way? Or is it just soley the invited person in your marriage a female for him and you love her?
2 Sasha // Jul 22, 2008 at 10:28 am
Yes. This topic is monogamous isn’t it?
3 Yawn // Jul 20, 2008 at 2:25 pm
I’m so bored of all these ridiculous open marriage articles. Does Tango NOT have anything else to write about regarding relationships.
We get it.
“The majority of the population struggles with monogamy. Hence the divorce rate. Well, what if there was another option out there? What if we fought what our parents and society have taught us? What if we didn’t limit ourselves to one person. Introducing: open relationships - the answer to your boring monogamous lifestyle!”
We get it.
Can we move on now? Jenny has written several articles on the topic now. Can we get something else? If I want to keep reading these articles, I can read her book.
Tango.. please find a new topic to obsess about.