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Wife Wants A Threesome
Dan and Carrie give non-monogamy advice.
by Dan Eldridge
And I know what she wants me to tell her. She wants me to say that her husband knew what he was getting himself into when they got married, and now he’s being unreasonable and unfair, and she should do whatever the hell she wants. But you know what? That’s simply not the case. I mean, she married this guy! And if there’s anything that’s almost guaranteed to destroy the foundation of a long-term relationship, it’s lack of communication. And that’s something that appears to have been going on in this relationship for quite some time.
Carrie:: I think both Karen and her husband are asking for a lot of trouble in their relationship if they don’t talk honestly with each other before doing this. The husband needs a forum to explain how he felt the last time they had a threesome.
And Karen needs to be able to talk to her husband about sensitive topics as well. It’s a really bad sign that she’s not even able to discuss his weight with him, especially when you consider how big of a factor that’s become in their search for sexual partners.
I found something else about her question a bit troubling. Did you notice how she didn’t mention anything about the third party? I think these two are so worried about themselves, and about what they want, that they haven’t even thought about out how they’re going to handle this new addition to their relationship. For example, is this something they just want to experience once? Or do they want it to be an ongoing thing with someone specific? If they do want it to be ongoing, they’ll need to realize that the third partner is most likely going to want something out of the relationship too.
Dan: Before Karen so much as makes out with her girlfriend again, she needs to have a long heart-to-heart with her husband. The two of them are obviously not communicating with each other. They need to lay it all on the line. They need to decide what they’re comfortable with as far as their sex life goes. Bottom line: Karen has to be honest with her husband about what she wants. She can’t keep pussy-footing around the situation forever, or eventually someone is bound to explode!
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1 Jim // Nov 16, 2008 at 9:31 am
Uhm… she enjoys having sex with her best friend more than her husband? Her best friend hasn’t told HER husband? Have they considered divorcing their husbands and marrying each other? Yeesh. If nothing else, I’d start with being honest with the other girl’s husband, for crying out loud.
2 judyjerome // Sep 23, 2008 at 10:08 pm
yes i think it is a wonderful idea to try !It is really wonderful and thrilling to read about people finding all kinds of ways to up the ante when going into heat and going after a thrilling orgasm.
judy
3 Wow // Aug 5, 2008 at 6:29 pm
Yeah, she’s not being honest with herself… about the friend
My gut says - Why would someone be OK with their wife getting back into an on-going (back together not hookup right) sexual relationship with their ex-boyfriend?
Perhaps I’m not fluent with the dynamics of more open relationships, but he is still her primary partner, and her enjoying sex *more* with her friend just seems out of place.
It’s not like there is a mention of other third parties in play… it’s all about this specific woman, who she was in a relationship with before, who is now only? her best friend, but they have included previously, and now wants something more ongoing (but hasn’t told her own husband)… which sounds like a lot more than she is stating here [did she marry the wrong person?]