5 Things Men (Really) Think About Sex

by Jayden Harlow

MYTH #5: One night stands never lead to happily ever after.

REALITY: Unlike you, most men don’t spend our teen years fantasizing about finding and marrying Ms. Right. For us, choosing a life partner is as much about timing as it is about the woman. If we aren’t ready personally or professionally for a long-term relationship, no connection is going to work out in the long run, whether you jump into bed with us right away or make us wait it out. On the other hand, if we’re ready for commitment and we think you might be the right one, we won’t be scared away by the timing of our first sexual encounter. That said, this is one myth that does have some roots in reality. One night stands often involve alcohol, and there’s just no telling whether we’ll feel the same chemistry with you once we’ve sobered up. Maybe this is why you rarely meet married couples whose “how we met” stories involve six Long Island ice teas and a mechanical bull.

In the end, the most important thing to remember is that life isn’t like Hollywood. Carrie Bradshaw is a fictional character, and the behavior of the men in her life is sometimes as fantastical as her ability to afford Jimmy Choo shoes on a magazine writer’s salary. Real-life men don’t always conform to the Hollywood myth. We are flesh and blood just like you and that ain’t so bad!