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A Vacation From My Wedding Ring
Marriage troubles force a woman to test the weight of wearing her ring.
by Maya Halpen
Walking toward the beach and wooden dance platform with drinks in hand, we whispered an agreement: “If someone asks, we should dance.” We barely hit the sand and a hand was proffered. Before my natural shyness could take hold, I shoved my drink at Maddie, took the hand, and mounted the stage.
What a night. We enjoyed the attentions of many talented partners, and our skills grew by enormous proportion—from salsa novice to turns and dips! Only in company of a great friend who knows your secret insecurities and who can be your greatest cheerleader can you let loose like this.
But would we have had this opportunity with mates in tow? How about if our get-ups included wedding bands?
Maddie hadn’t had much of a reaction when I told her on our way from the airport that I was removing my ring for the duration of our trip. If anything, she seemed a bit sad for me. She knew Rob and I were going through a rough patch. And of course those troubles played no small role in my ringless travel curiosity.
But despite Maddie’s low-key response, removing my band was significant enough that she mentioned it to her running partners back home. She later told about their collective reaction: “whoa.” It seemed they viewed the removal as an invitation for sexual trysts.
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1 Jackie Chan // Oct 23, 2008 at 1:56 pm
The only reason Carlos the fisherman invited you to the gathering with friends was so he might have a chance to get laid. I feel sorry for your husband, he deserves better.
2 mike yuen ken paahana // Oct 10, 2008 at 9:34 pm
my vacation without my gf was the bes time i have make me think i no like be with her anymore
3 ohkwarimama // Aug 12, 2008 at 11:39 am
When my husband and I got married we had no money and a young child. We bought cheap rings and my finger reacted badly to the metal, so I stopped wearing mine. We got new equally cheap rings which we wore for a couple years, and then my husband crushed his (saved his finger) in a work accident, so he stopped wearing his. I took the opportunity to stop wearing mine as well (as I had never liked the look of the cheap ring). We are now waiting to have our new, not so cheap rings made. Our marriage has not been effected at all by wearing or not wearing rings. They are a culturally specific symbol, something that matters only if you think it matters. I know lots of people who do not wear wedding rings at all (happily long married people). In many cultures rings are not a part of making a promise to be someone’s partner, get over it!
4 kenneth // Aug 12, 2008 at 6:41 am
Concealing your wedding ring is not much different from being unfaithful (especially if you believe in wearing the wedding band as sign of fidelity). Why should you still marry if all your looking for in life is happiness, meeting other guys where a lot of temptations arise?
5 watcher77 // Aug 12, 2008 at 2:54 am
well, how does one find the right words to describe extreme selfishness, self-delusion, betrayal, egocentrism, vapidity, airheadedness, superficiality to the max, poor excuse for an adult, never grew out of high school, britney-clone, slut-fiend. Sorry, I just can’t find the words.
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