Meet the “Sworn Virgins”

by Jessica Wakeman

If you’re like me, sometimes you fret about what Europeans must think of us Americans and our schizophrenic sex lives.  Despite our Britneys and our Pamelas, it’s no secret we’re quite Puritanical.  I worry some dashing Italian man or sexy Frenchwoman is watching a TV program (lounging in fabulous lingerie, I’m sure) about virginity pledges and purity balls and shaking their head at our country, which prizes purity so much we have industries built around it.

But an article on the BBC this weekend relaxed me a little bit about Europe: meet Albania’s “sworn virgins.”  These poor, rural Albanian matrons chose decades ago (almost a century ago, in some cases) to live as virgins in order to be the “head of the household,” often in the absence of male heirs.  In their patriarchal society with strict gender roles, instead of marrying and becoming wives and mothers, these women had the option to act as fathers to their sisters and take care of the “man’s business.”

An 88-year-old “sworn virgin” told the BBC that even though she doesn’t wear her hair or enjoy dresses, life as the “male head of household” brings with it benefits plenty of other women across the world take for granted:

“People respect me, and shake my hand, as they would with a man; but when they hear my voice and see my face they know I’m a woman,” Qamile says.

“And they still say to me, ‘how you’ve been’ - just as they would say to a man!” she adds with a broad smile…