Audrey Ference Blogger for Women in a Committed relationshipAudrey Ference is an expatriated Texan living in Brooklyn, N.Y. She has a literature degree from Haverford College, and her writing has appeared in the L Magazine, Maisonnueve, Mr. Beller’s Neighborhood, McSweeney’s Internet Tendency, and Ninth Art.

Because she is shiftless, she has had many stupid jobs, including TV Trivia Writer, Speed Dating PR Slave, Costumed Colonial Tour Guide, and Governors Island National Park Bouncer (you wouldn’t believe how bad some people want to go to the National Park. Seriously.) Currently, she does fundraising for a poetry advocacy organization in Manhattan.

She shares an apartment with her boyfriend Frank and an old, toothless cat named Elliott, and spends most of her time yelling at TiVO and trying to leash train Elliott. She swears that she’s seen other cats on leashes, and they looked like they were having fun.

The two most important lessons she’s learned about living with your boyfriend are: 1. Our different interpretations of what constitutes “clean” are what make us special snowflakes and 2. Boyfriends are far, far superior to male roommates. And only partially because of the making out.